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What I Wish I Knew At Age 18

Here's everything everyone wish they knew at the age of 18. If it's good advice, hit the upvote button. The number next to it indicates the age the author wrote it at. Feel like there's something missing? Add a new message!



Hey 18 year old, If your parents decide to decide everything that happens in you for your adult life, then you will have to learn to live your own life. As long as something is not life threatening, any different decision isn't the end of the world as they think.
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Hey 18 year old, As an adult, don't just learn the red flags of a romantic relationship, learn the red flags of an abusive workplace or a toxic work environment. Look it up. Read about it. Talk about it. Bosses, of course, can be abusive too.
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Hey 18 year old, Sometimes if you can't find a therapist who understands, you need a therapist that is closer to your background, as in someone with the same gender, same cultural background, same experiences, and so on.
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Hey 18 year old, Sometimes when you need to argue your right to do things you want, people are more likely to listen if you take the time to listen to them first and ask questions. Not everyone, some never listen, but you'd be surprised how many people would.
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Hey 18 year old, If you need to learn something for career skills, don't underestimate the power of YouTube in having all kinds of educational videos on completely random skills and hobbies for you to try.
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Hey 18 year old, If you're stuck on motivation when it comes to your goals, look up what a growth mindset is vs a fixed mindset. Read books about it if possible, but if not, at least look it up and think about it.
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Hey 18 year old, You can be both mature and have a sense of humor. The point is that you know what's worth laughing about and what situations you need to be serious about. Sometimes taking some things too seriously is immaturity too.
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Hey 18 year old, Masturbation is normal and has a lot of scientific benefits (If you don't believe me, look it up.) Just know that if it starts going beyond masturbation and worsening your life, there are many websites, apps or even professionals to look for help.
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Hey 18 year old, Some people feel called to have a big ambitious life, and that's valid, but if you personally just want a simple everyday life, that's valid too. Don't feel pressured to be more ambitious than you naturally feel the inclination towards. Just be you.
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Hey 18 year old, If you don't know where to start when it comes to having a richer life in all areas of life, I suggest regularly watching one Ted Talks video daily. Look for the Ted Talks website or YouTube channel. Pick a playlist or a topic you like.
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Hey 18 year old, A similar website to this is EldersWisdomCircle, where you can ask for advice to an older person, and get a long personal letter back within a few days. It helped me a lot. Recommend it to your friends too, if you want to.
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Hey 18 year old, There are many advice for "(specific age) year old" or "letter to my (age) year old self" online, but the most frequent are ones for 18 year old people. It's not that hard to find multiple articles on google just dedicated to advising 18 year olds.
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Hey 18 year old, If you want some help on reflecting on what to do with your life, look up "journal prompts for self discovery," "journal prompts for mental health" or just "journaling prompts." If you prefer to, looking for a journaling/diary app can help too.
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Hey 18 year old, If you identify as a man or even if you just tend to act rather masculine, then the advice on the Art of Manliness blog can really apply to you when it comes to different areas of life. This is the deepest and least shallow men's magazine I've seen.
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Hey 18 year old, I need advice
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Hey 18 year old, People tell 18 year old people to focus on practical skills, and that's important, but soft skills matter also. EQ (Emotional Intelligence skills) such as self awareness, self control, discipline, social skills, influence and more can be looked into.
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Hey 18 year old, If you're a person of color, there are many mental health resources online made for black people, such as Black Mental Health Alliance, Therapy for Black Girls podcast, Black Girls Heal, and more. Look up "black mental health resources," for more.
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Hey 18 year old, There are many depression blogs if you would like to read some, such as Time to Change, Depressed While Black, Therapy for Black Girls, HeadsupGuys, A Splintered Mind, Blurt, Lawyer Depression Project, NAMI, and more.
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Hey 18 year old, If you use Google Chrome, look up the Chrome Web Store to find some free useful extensions related to things like productivity, accessibility, search tools, shopping and even the fun section that can come surprisingly in handy for nearly everything.
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Hey 18 year old, If you can't decide, flip a coin. If you get what you want, you'd be happy you'd get the result. If you don't get what you want, you then become aware of what you really wanted the coin to flip to. Flip a coin not to trust it, but to trust yourself.
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Hey 18 year old, If you're stuck on what to do in life, look up a list of life goals, bucket list ideas, list of hobbies/interests, or New Year's resolution ideas (even if it's not the New Year), if you want some ideas on what to do with your life.
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Hey 18 year old, PS : If you want to learn more about why the world is such a mess, look up the stages of spiral dynamics, based on a psychology study by Dr. Clare Graves of the stages to maturity.
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Hey 18 year old, Learn to be observant of the possible opportunities around you. When someone looks at the details upon things, you might end up finding things you never considered before, but only if you're willing to look closely at your surroundings.
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Hey 18 year old, If you still want to connect with your inner child as an adult, you can. In your remaining free time, try building things with LEGO, making things with clay, scrapbooking with stickers, watching cartoons, coloring books/apps, and whatever you like.
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Hey 18 year old, If you want an easy way to support social causes, look up search engines that support/sponsor charities like Tab for a Cause, Search for a Cause, Ecosia, giveWater, Elliot for Water, Lilo, Ocean Hero, and more. Look up "charity search engines."
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Hey 18 year old, Some basic ways to help the social causes you care about are petition sites like Change.org and Care2. Not to mention click to donate sites (where you look at ads of companies who sponsor charities.) The most famous of this is Free Rice, a quiz game.
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Hey 18 year old, Whatever career path you choose, look for online communities on it. If you're in IT, look for a programmer forum. If you're in the arts, look for art videos. If you're in nursing or training to be a doctor, look at med school memes. Research.
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Hey 18 year old, If you want some ideas on how to make money on the side, look up phrases like "100 ways to make money," "100 ways to make money online," "100 ways to save money," "money making apps/websites," "coupon finder apps/chrome extensions," and so on.
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Hey 18 year old, If you need help organizing your life, look up how to make a mind map, the different uses of the mind maps, the benefits of mind maps, mind map apps, mind map websites, and mind map books. It organizes EVERYTHING in your life.
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Hey 18 year old, There are better ways to contribute to society than criticism and complaints alone. Yes, those things are needed, but criticism without specific solutions or specific actions will do nothing. Keep this in mind when you judge others. What do you do?
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